Saturday, October 28, 2006
Yes No Maybe So? New dating site!
i I just love it when new dating websites come out with a different angle. This new one is called YesNoMayB.com - and its pretty damn cool! It works very much like Hot or Not - using something called 'FaceSpin' you see peoples photos and say whether you want to meet them or not. Once you say yes, they are added to a cool 'black book' feature, where you can find more about them, and look at all your other prospects.
The one thing I really love about this new dating site is the look and feel - its very flashy, cool and creative. Its not exactly cheap to use, but right now there is a free 14 day premium member trial when you upload your photo - take a look at YesNoMayB.com, its fun, definitely different!
The one thing I really love about this new dating site is the look and feel - its very flashy, cool and creative. Its not exactly cheap to use, but right now there is a free 14 day premium member trial when you upload your photo - take a look at YesNoMayB.com, its fun, definitely different! Oh and its pretty new and its not just for americans - YesNoMayB is actually from South Africa - so dont be shocked to see not too many american people on there - but its growing quick!
Thursday, October 26, 2006
DatingDr Answers: Friend Cheating Online
Continuing in our series of DatingDr answers, this week we are featuring a very interesting question from Joshua in Phoenix about a cheating friend... read on!
Joshua: "I really don't know what to do. One of my best friends is married to a pretty damn cool woman, who I have always had a thing for. But I got over that, until recently - I found out he is using CraigsList to meet and mess around with other women! What do I do? I am mad that he is treating her this way. Do I say anything?"
DatingDr: "Well that is a tough one. Sounds like this guy is a bit of a jerk - but how much of it is to do with the fact you probably still want her? If you say something to her about it, then you may lose a great friend. But if you don't say anything, then its unfair to her. It really depends on your true motives. My advice? Tell him that you made a dating post on Craigslist and that his wife replied to you wanting to meet, without knowing it was you... give him a taste of his own medicine, then come clean. That will make him see sense... and get realistic - dating friends ex-wife's never works for anyone either... "
If you want to be featured here, please contact me with your question and I will do my best to answer it for you on here. Hope you enjoyed this second 'DatingDr Answers' post!
Joshua: "I really don't know what to do. One of my best friends is married to a pretty damn cool woman, who I have always had a thing for. But I got over that, until recently - I found out he is using CraigsList to meet and mess around with other women! What do I do? I am mad that he is treating her this way. Do I say anything?"
DatingDr: "Well that is a tough one. Sounds like this guy is a bit of a jerk - but how much of it is to do with the fact you probably still want her? If you say something to her about it, then you may lose a great friend. But if you don't say anything, then its unfair to her. It really depends on your true motives. My advice? Tell him that you made a dating post on Craigslist and that his wife replied to you wanting to meet, without knowing it was you... give him a taste of his own medicine, then come clean. That will make him see sense... and get realistic - dating friends ex-wife's never works for anyone either... "
If you want to be featured here, please contact me with your question and I will do my best to answer it for you on here. Hope you enjoyed this second 'DatingDr Answers' post!
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Monday, October 23, 2006
This blog post is boring, don't read it.
Ha. Knew you would fall for it - you are reading this when I said don't! And you know why? Because its not the typical title people give posts, and you were curious about why its so boring. And this is what some online daters are starting to do with their profile headlines - being negative about themselves or something.
And what made me post about this? Well I read a great article in the New York Times about negative dating profiles and how they surprisingly work, and I just thought, hmmm, I totally agree! I see way too many people making really boring profile headlines or boring profiles - just last week I did a profile makeover for a guy who was so unoriginal and boring. I often try being negative about something in my profile headline or when I email someone - and get great results. Try and think like a spammer (no viagra or porn though!) and really think what would make YOU open a profile or email. Go on, give it a try and let me know...
And what made me post about this? Well I read a great article in the New York Times about negative dating profiles and how they surprisingly work, and I just thought, hmmm, I totally agree! I see way too many people making really boring profile headlines or boring profiles - just last week I did a profile makeover for a guy who was so unoriginal and boring. I often try being negative about something in my profile headline or when I email someone - and get great results. Try and think like a spammer (no viagra or porn though!) and really think what would make YOU open a profile or email. Go on, give it a try and let me know...
Wednesday, October 18, 2006
If you are too lazy/scared to breakup normally...
... then you can use a new service called uBreakUp.com to break up for you! How funny is that! All you have to do is go to that website and record a personalized message and schedule a time for it to be automatially delivered to your future ex. If you can deal with it making you look like a chicken s*t, then by all means use it :)
Personally, i think this is one step tackier and more cowardly than breaking up by text message. And no, I don't recommend breaking up by email either. Unless you really just don't care about them... and like bad karma!
Personally, i think this is one step tackier and more cowardly than breaking up by text message. And no, I don't recommend breaking up by email either. Unless you really just don't care about them... and like bad karma!
Tuesday, October 17, 2006
DatingDr Answers: Meet with no photo?
Welcome to our new section on Dating Dirt called 'DatingDr Answers'. DatingDr will answer internet dating questions from you, the readers of this dating blog. First up is a question from Mark in Seattle.
Mark: "So, I have been emailing this girl on match.com for about a week now. She sounds cool and we both like the same kind of music, but she doesn't have a photo on her profile, and seems to change the subject whenever I ask for a photo. Do you think this is strange? I'm not sure I want to meet someone online without seeing their photo first - seems a little too much like a blind date to me, and I have happy some crappy blind dates set up by my friends, believe me! What do you think I should do?"
DatingDr: "Well Mark, very interesting. I think this probably happens a lot on dating sites. In my opinion, there are usually three main reasons for women to not have a photo -
1: She is uncomfortable about showing her photo online for any joe shmoe to see.
2: She has had way too many creepy emails about her photo, so she took it down to avoid the weird emails.
3: She is not happy with the way she looks and probably isn't going to be great looking.
From what it sounds like, I would probably have to say number 3 is the case here, unfortunately for you. If she keeps avoiding it, she probably wants to let her personality shine through and wine you over that way, so probably isn't great looking. If she was number 1 or 2, then she would probably send you her photo privately. Hope that makes sense.
So, I guess its about how picky you are in terms of looks, and whether you want to risk meeting her and potentially having an ackward moment if she isn't your type. If you are really intrigued, I suggest meeting her for coffee, and come prepared with a way out excuse if she really isn't your type and it becomes an ackward situtation. Trust me, she will thank you for not hanging around and delaying her embarrassment, as long as you aren't too obviously lying. Hopefully this helps Mark, let me know how it goes".
If you want to be featured here, please contact me with your question and I will do my best to answer it for you on here. Hope you enjoyed this first new 'DatingDr Answers' post!
Mark: "So, I have been emailing this girl on match.com for about a week now. She sounds cool and we both like the same kind of music, but she doesn't have a photo on her profile, and seems to change the subject whenever I ask for a photo. Do you think this is strange? I'm not sure I want to meet someone online without seeing their photo first - seems a little too much like a blind date to me, and I have happy some crappy blind dates set up by my friends, believe me! What do you think I should do?"
DatingDr: "Well Mark, very interesting. I think this probably happens a lot on dating sites. In my opinion, there are usually three main reasons for women to not have a photo -
1: She is uncomfortable about showing her photo online for any joe shmoe to see.
2: She has had way too many creepy emails about her photo, so she took it down to avoid the weird emails.
3: She is not happy with the way she looks and probably isn't going to be great looking.
From what it sounds like, I would probably have to say number 3 is the case here, unfortunately for you. If she keeps avoiding it, she probably wants to let her personality shine through and wine you over that way, so probably isn't great looking. If she was number 1 or 2, then she would probably send you her photo privately. Hope that makes sense.
So, I guess its about how picky you are in terms of looks, and whether you want to risk meeting her and potentially having an ackward moment if she isn't your type. If you are really intrigued, I suggest meeting her for coffee, and come prepared with a way out excuse if she really isn't your type and it becomes an ackward situtation. Trust me, she will thank you for not hanging around and delaying her embarrassment, as long as you aren't too obviously lying. Hopefully this helps Mark, let me know how it goes".
If you want to be featured here, please contact me with your question and I will do my best to answer it for you on here. Hope you enjoyed this first new 'DatingDr Answers' post!
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Friday, October 13, 2006
MySpace = MyOlderSpace?
Whenever you think of MySpace users, people tend to think of people in their teens and twenties. Well, I always thought older people used it (look at me, I'm 31 now!) - some research has finally just came out and backed me up! And it basically shows a growing percentage of 35-45 year old users, and a decrease in 12-17 users. So, all those baby boomers out there... get cracking with MySpace - its not just for kids anymore! Why not start by reading my free MySpace dating secrets ebook to give yourself a headstart....
Tuesday, October 10, 2006
Free dating profile evaluation tool?
Well, im starting to post more again finally. I am having more time (summers gone...) and a renewed passion for internet dating. Anyway.
One of the things I am currently working on is a dating profile evaluation tool. I am doing this because I have realized that none of the dating sites out there actually allow you to see how good your profile is, let alone do this for free. This really frustrates me, because I see so many bad profiles out there still. When I finish this tool, you will be able to use my evaluation tool to judge how good your dating profile is. And yep, it will be free. It will ask you questions, and depending on what you answer, it will rate your profile. Cool hey? What do you all think of this? Would you use something like this? Comments welcome!
One of the things I am currently working on is a dating profile evaluation tool. I am doing this because I have realized that none of the dating sites out there actually allow you to see how good your profile is, let alone do this for free. This really frustrates me, because I see so many bad profiles out there still. When I finish this tool, you will be able to use my evaluation tool to judge how good your dating profile is. And yep, it will be free. It will ask you questions, and depending on what you answer, it will rate your profile. Cool hey? What do you all think of this? Would you use something like this? Comments welcome!
Tuesday, October 03, 2006
What I really hate...
...about paying for dating on websites like Match.com or Yahoo Personals is this. You sign up, you do a search and find someone who is SO suited to you, and is your probable soul mate. You email them, thinking 'wow, we are so going to connect!', but you never hear from them. You are soooo let down. And you know why they didn't reply? Because chances are the person you emailed isn't a paying member and can't even read your email, let alone see you are their soul mate and email you back!
I even called Match.com about this one day to see what they thought, and lets just say this, they didnt really have an answer. Of course they didnt, because it doesn't make the best business sense to allow non-paying members to reply to emails. They want your money ultimately, and not your happiness in love. Thats why the only time I ever use Yahoo personals or Match.com is for the free trial and then cancel after the 3 or 7 day trial ends so they can't charge my credit card. Get in, grab some real emails and phone numbers, then get out before they charge you. By far the easiest way to meet people online I think is still using MySpace and CraigsList. If you haven't read my free dating ebooks all about this, I suggest you do so and save yourself $30 or so bucks a month on dating fees!
I even called Match.com about this one day to see what they thought, and lets just say this, they didnt really have an answer. Of course they didnt, because it doesn't make the best business sense to allow non-paying members to reply to emails. They want your money ultimately, and not your happiness in love. Thats why the only time I ever use Yahoo personals or Match.com is for the free trial and then cancel after the 3 or 7 day trial ends so they can't charge my credit card. Get in, grab some real emails and phone numbers, then get out before they charge you. By far the easiest way to meet people online I think is still using MySpace and CraigsList. If you haven't read my free dating ebooks all about this, I suggest you do so and save yourself $30 or so bucks a month on dating fees!
